Delhi psychologists: signs a child may be distressed about school

A sudden refusal to go to school, frequent crying, nightmares or unexplained stomach aches can be signs that a child needs a gentle conversation, Delhi psychologists say.

Dr Rakhi Anand, a senior consultant psychologist, also lists irritability, changes in sleep or appetite, increased clinginess, aggression and a return to previously acquired behaviours among possible indicators of distress. “These signs do not necessarily mean that the child has been harmed at school, but they warrant gentle exploration and attention,” she says.

Parents can begin with questions about the best and hardest parts of a child’s day, or ask whether anything made them feel sad, scared, angry or uncomfortable. Dr Sarika Boora, a child psychologist, advises adults to remain calm, avoid showing disbelief or blaming the child, and reassure them that they are not at fault. Repeated questioning or suggesting answers can make children withdraw.

Drawing, storytelling, dolls and pretend play may help younger children communicate experiences they cannot yet describe directly. Where abuse is suspected, psychologist Neha Cadabam says the child should be removed from further risk, with legal intervention and psychological support sought.